Question: Dear Vyacheslav Vladimirovich, Please, I beg you to help. I am 24 years old, younger brother – 13 years. We have a native mom and dad, they were together 27 years. Mom is our very kind and intelligent. She worked as a teacher of Russian tongue and literature, it is very fond of children, yet many still remember. She was 44 years old. It is slowly dying, although suicide attempts she had. It keeps our whole family: in her care, intelligence, kindness, cheerfulness. It does not work for 8 years. My father insisted that she left school because she went to work when my brother was 5 months, pulling all of us 5 years because the pope did not then have a permanent job, and she even washed the floors in the school where all students differed all summer vacations working. Dad found a stable job and "fired" her from school. In our family are very serious problems with the mother's health. Periodically, she gets drunk before the terrible state: in this state and it is aggressive towards others and towards themselves. It takes all of my adult life. This happens about once every 2-4 weeks, sometimes more, sometimes less. It lasts a few hours – napivanie and exuberance. In the morning she is sick, but never, never pohmelyaetsya. Cries, suffers, asking for forgiveness from us, children, dad – rarely. While we, the children, her regret in this state, and Dad often fights with her several times severely beaten face, she went blue for a month, and the hands and feet are always covered in bruises from it. Our Dad does not drink, my mother, too, she never buys and does not drink alcohol, she always asks my father, offers him "a good bottle of wine each, and then asks him again and go for alcohol, if he refuses, then she breaks away to escape from home, or throw everything begins to insult the Pope and fight. She can drink in this state any filth, just to even more drunk. One time my mother came up with a way to "stop" the most: to buy sleeping pills and drank a sleeping pill with alcohol to fall asleep faster and do not want more to drink, when I learned about it, we have a serious conversation, she promised not to do so, because you can not wake up but I do not know she does so or not now. Several times she promised us not to drink, withstood for months, for several months. Daddy loves her very much, but it tedious and difficult nature, all that is me, my brother – all from his mom. She gave me an excellent education, housing, health, always trouble and joy we go to my mother, not the pope, but it protects us and is sorry, and dad too for all attending to her mother. Now I live separately, next to my mother's brother, he is going through a terrible, he has such an age. Mamula, our – for us ALL! Help! Mom weighs a lot, she plump, her problem of endocrine nature, and hence to a woman is sick. It has almost ceased to leave home, embarrassed and afraid of people. But she reads a lot, long ago mastered the computer, preparing a very delicious, it did insanely comfortable and clean house. All her life she lived with Papa's parents, and their regrets. Mom for the last 15 years, twice attempted to cut the vein, and several times saw pills during a severe intoxication, Dad and I twisted it, forced to drink and vomit, washed her. Mother's father, his whole family were greatly drinkers. Has long been all died from this. Mother has no friends, she only shares with me everything, we are very close, but I do not know how to help her.
Answer: I understand you. . . BUT, your mother is sick alcohol dependence and should be treated to save and preserve it. I understand that it is difficult and hard, but if you follow my advice, the chances for its salvation you will be very high. It needs to be treated. Treatment of complex: medikamentozaya therapy, psychotherapy, physiotherapy, occupational therapy. Treatment should begin in the hospital. Must be strict compliance with all, all!, The recommendations of the treating physician. Call to be full-time, a doctor-psychiatrist narcologists.
